I agree with [Ankhesen]. The question of this topic should be: "Why so few Black women marry White Men."Abagond started this series a while back and every few months or so, the debate reignites. For me, the title alone made me lose interest right away because once again, it was all about white men, what they want, what they think, and how dire the overall situation is for black women.
There are plenty White men around the world ( including me) who want to marry a decent Black lady, but its so difficult to find one who could be interested in a serious relationship with a White male… Or at least, I’ve had this experience…
Not every man necessarily wants a Black Lady who is so beautiful like Rihanna, Gabrielle Union, Naomi Campbell, Iman, etc. I’d just like a decent Black lady with good heart, even if she’s divorce[d] or with one little child.
~ commenter Matt*, on Abagond's "Why So Few White Men Marry Black Women II"
In the end, it's not about physical appearance or having mixed kids. Humans have been mixing for thousands of years; white men have desired black women since they first laid eyes on us. It's not about the physical, and never has been, so people need to just kill that argument now.
It's about dealing.
A white man who finds black women attractive (and isn't bothered by the thought of having mixed kids) but hesitates to marry one hesitates because he doesn't want to deal with the world. He doesn't want to deal with all the extra questions, comments, looks and overall unnecessary additional stress which he, as a white heterosexual male in American society, has never had to deal with before. He doesn't want to deal with his family, his friends, their friends, his coworkers, his bosses, and random strangers. Like most humans, he prefers the path of least resistance.
However, a black woman living in these disunited states who finds
Now here's where most people jump onto the black woman and tell her she should risk it all for love. Um...no. I say we should encourage black women to marry more white American men the day we see white American parents - in droves - urging their sons to ignore society and marry more black women.
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*"Matt" is a white European man, by the way. I know the "differences" will be pointed out here.