Comments on At the Bar: America, Stop Trying to Scare Black Women

Excellent post. I love Goddess's comment &quo...

2010-11-20T00:31:29.320-05:00

Excellent post. I love Goddess's comment "We dont love dem hoes" LMAO.

Yes. I have said at Abagond's I feel there is a significant portion of white males that WILL NOT take BW seriously as long-term mates but at the same time feel some entitlement to access BW sexually. Its bugs these men that BW(as a group) don not bow down before WM in worship like other races of women are stereotyped as doing.

What I have gathered from personal experiences and talking to BW and other races of women is that BW are less inclined to want to date WM. I think this bothers a lot of WM, whether they want BW or not. They want the option to reject us, if that makes sense. They want us to want them, so they can say, "we dont want you!"

Now, dont get me wrong. I like white men. I find them attractive,but the majority of them I couldn't "go there" with. In starting to realize a lot of them buy into the negative perceptions about blacks and I just cant deal with it. If I find one that is hip to the BS that still goes on in this country that would be awesome. However, I wont overlook BS for the sake of dating a white guy. I understand the need/want for BW to "expand our options" but I think BW need to be careful. A lot of WM still have that idea that BW are for dry-spells and/or they can do less for a BW's attention. In other words, they believe our standards are lower so they go to us to "escape" doing the things WW and other women require men to do in order to get their romantic attention.

@ Goddess Thank you and you're welcome. Ther...

2010-03-04T16:58:54.145-05:00

@ Goddess

Thank you and you're welcome.

There was a comment I had to reject because the poster thought your comments were bigoted.

To the person who tried to comment as (?):

Women like Goddess don't mind being told black women need to "broaden their tastes". They do, however, get a bit skeptical when the message automatically skips over every other kind of man says, "date more white men." That's simply too specific a remedy to a nonexistent epidemic, particularly when our history is taken into account. Furthermore, it gives white dudes like old boy up there waaaaaay too much confidence.

Black women have a history of negative experiences with white men in America, and I'm not just talking during the slavery era. Many of our relatives who are still alive recount very disturbing memories. Younger black women may not have those exact experiences, but modern times haven't stopped white men from assuming we're all whores and approaching us thusly.

When whites speak negatively of blacks, they're usually speaking from preconceived notions. When blacks speak negatively of whites, we're speaking from personal experiences.

One of these is bigotry, the other is not. Can you figure out which is which?

I like this blog, sista. Finallly, a sista not try...

2010-03-03T05:07:45.450-05:00

I like this blog, sista. Finallly, a sista not trying to convince me that the white male is god. We often find our self climbing the social ladder when we climb the corporate ladder and at times, that has us spending less time with our people. Sadly, it can be easy for the one who didn't know her roots to begin with to think that she has to follow some tax table to find a mate. Its funny that you were responding to that comment, because, I have a blog where I have to moderate comments constantly from white males....why they looking so hard for us??? Just because most of Black Hollywood is married to whites doesn't mean we are looking to follow. You can't fool us all, especially those of us that you don't pay to look like a trader...I think my fave artist put it best in his song "Coma, Pimp, and circumstance" when he compared an older white woman with a young Black man to a "dirty dog in expensive fur". Your commenter seems disgruntled...lol..sexually frustrated. Perhaps he knows we don't love them hoes (white guys)...peace sis

Found you via swpd. Keep PREACHING!

2010-03-03T01:54:08.678-05:00

Found you via swpd.

Keep PREACHING!